The inner control freak in me is trying to stay calm.
However, that control freak is pretty strong willed. But it's trying to keep things in perspective.
Here's the thing:
I keep Kaylee (my oldest, 7) on a pretty regular schedule.
(And any parent that has ever cracked open a parenting book has read about KEEPING A SCHEDULE or MAINTAINING A ROUTINE and how ESSENTIAL it is for your child's development.)
While I don't think a schedule or a routine is a life or death situation, I do think that it's pretty important.
For my child in particular, a sleep schedule is necessary. Much to my dismay, she wakes up every day by 7:00am. And in order for her to get all the sleep that a growing kid needs, she needs to be in bed by 8:30, so she's asleep by 9:00 or so.
And no, she doesn't compensate for staying up late by sleeping late. She can go to bed at 8:30 or 11, and she's still up and at 'em at 7:00 in the morning.
But trust me, she needs her sleep. My usually sweet child becomes cranky pants mcgee if she does not get adequate rest. It's not limited to just crankyness either - it's a total emotional upset. Easily frustrated, easily angered, apt to cry at the littlest thing. It's not pretty.
So needless to say, I honor her bedtime as an important and necessary thing. My husband and I are both fully on board with making sure we don't let other things interfere with bedtime.
Unfortunately, we have some grandparents who totally don't respect bedtime.
Who thinks it's fun to take her to the late movie.
Who thinks it's ok to stay up late watching TV.
Who thinks it's totally harmless to let her stay up hours past her bedtime.
Who gets to give Kaylee back the next morning and not see the effect the lack of sleep has had on her.
And it drives me CRAZY!!
I've reminded them that bedtime is 8:30 and asked repeatedly that she gets to bed at a decent time and shared why I think it's necessary.
Smiles and nods ensue.
And then time and time again, I get a little sleep deprived monster coming home to me, instead of the good-natured Kaylee that I dropped off.
And I hate that they totally disregard my requests.
Yes, I know it's a little thing, and they'd never do anything to harm my child.
I also try to look at it from the perspective that grandparents get to spoil kids and that kids get to have fun and different (less) rules when they visit grandma or grandpa.
Because of these issues, I never want to let Kaylee go stay the night with her grandparents. I'm all for letting her have quality time with them, but I don't want to allow the sleepover.
What do you think? Is my frustration justified? Or am I overreacting? Do I need to relax about it and just be glad for the time they have together? Be honest! I'd love to hear your thoughts!